Kati P. / Don't blame yourself

"The people who want to be in your life will be and those that don’t are missing out!."

Kati reflects on being separated from her siblings definitely induced a lot of fear and anxiety in me. While she lived with them, She took a lot of responsibility in caring for them in whatever way she could. Then their dad came after a few weeks in care and took custody of them. After that, she lost her once close relationship with them and knew very little about them.

"It was incredibly difficult for me to adjust to living with people I did not know and especially with those I did not share cultural ties with."

Building trust takes time, but due to constant displacement, Kati felt she never had the opportunity to build meaningful and lasting relationships with any of my foster families. She feared that it would be taken from her or they would suddenly deem her to be too much, so she learned to keep to herself and forgot how one is supposed to act towards relatives. She had never felt so disposable and bothersome than her time in foster care.

"Give yourself patience and remember to not blame yourself for situations that weren’t in your control.."

Throughout your healing journey, She recommend looking into inner child work and self-parenting techniques. She know it can be hard to trust others, so developing a kind and soothing relationship with yourself will have you grow in ways you never imagined.

"Stop accepting less then what you deserve, I've removed myself from a lot of people and it has brought me a lot of sadness, but a lot of healing as well. ."

As of right now, she wants to graduate from graduate school and find financial and housing stability.

Kati has been thinking of what she truly wants for herself. She want to start and finish grad school, pay off my car, move to a new city, maintain stable housing to have a cozy home for her and my three cats. She see herself growing and becoming the person she deserve and need to be.